Best Teen Parenting Tips: Own it

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Written By Michael

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Talking to your teen isn’t the easiest thing in the world. As if you’re speaking two different languages. So you’re going to need these parenting tips.

You only want to keep them safe and happy, but they seem to think that you’re trying to make them miserable.

Is there any solution?

Parenting a teen will probably never be easy, but you can close the gulf with this simple parenting advice.

If you have trouble getting through to your teenager, read this article to learn how to better communicate with teens.

  • Spend time with your teen and actively listen to her in general. The closer your relationship is, the more likely she’ll be to pay attention and comply with your requests. Some parents expect to have a one-way conversation as they did when their children were younger. But the days of I-tell-you-and-you-do-it are long over. Your teen is now realizing that he can make his own decisions. Two-way communication can help you to influence those choices, but it will become increasingly difficult for you to control them outright.
  • As difficult as it may be, stay positive. Your teenager deserves respect too, and by actively listening and treating him as you want to be treated you’re modeling the kind of behavior that you want him to exhibit. If you feel yourself losing your temper, take a step back from the conversation and regroup.
  • Be as specific as possible about what you want and why you want it. With younger children, you can tell them to do things “because I said so,” but that just won’t fly with teens. Help them to understand why you’re putting your foot down and they should be more willing to comply. By if you make a logical request that is difficult to argue with, you’re more likely to succeed.
  • Be honest. A good relationship and effective communication are both based on trust. Lying to your teenager or trying to obscure the truth will more than likely hurt your chances of reaching a satisfactory solution.
  • Less is more. Make your point once and then stop. Your child is intelligent; give her credit and don’t patronize. You’ll find that she’s more likely to listen if you don’t read her the riot act.
  • Allow your teen the space and time to respond. Once you’ve explained your point of view, let him assimilate the information and explain his point of view. There may be some factors that you’re not aware of, or he may come up with an alternate solution that will make both of you happy. Never compromise on issues related to your child’s safety, but by all means, be prepared to give a little on things that are less important.
  • Don’t try to be a friend. Your teen has many friends, but they don’t have an unlimited supply of parents. By all means, be friendly with your kids, but realize that keeping them safe, happy, and healthy may sometimes require putting your foot down. Friends don’t do that, but parents of successful teens do.

Positive Behavior

Teens who behave well tend to get along better with others. They also enjoy being around other people. It’s no coincidence that most teenagers spend much of their free time hanging out with peers rather than family members.

The best way to encourage positive behaviors in your teen is to model them yourself. Be sure to set a good example at home. When you see your teen behaving badly, say something like “That wasn’t very nice.” Don’t lecture or scold, though.

Family Life

The first few years after high school graduation are often filled with uncertainty. Many young adults struggle financially while looking for work. Others face challenges finding meaningful employment. And still others wonder whether college is worth pursuing. If you’ve been through this before, you know there isn’t one right answer when it comes to choosing between higher education and starting a career. But here are five questions to ask yourself:

What am I passionate about? What would I love doing even if nobody else was paying me? Is my passion compatible with a job? Can I afford to go to college without taking on debt? Will going to college help me achieve financial independence sooner? Do I really want to pursue a degree?

Quality Time

Spending quality time with your teen is important because it helps build strong relationships. The key word here is quality. Quality doesn’t mean spending every waking moment together. In fact, studies show that teens benefit from having separate times alone with each parent. This gives them room to develop independent identities and learn self-reliance skills.

It’s also important to remember that teens aren’t always interested in talking to their parents. Sometimes they prefer to talk to their friends instead. So don’t take rejection personally.

Social Skills

Your teenager needs social skills just as much as academic ones. Your teen will need these skills throughout their life, so start teaching them now. Here are four ways to teach your teen social skills:

Talk to her. Ask open ended questions such as “How did you feel when…?” Or simply listen attentively. Teens appreciate hearing themselves described accurately.

Model appropriate behavior. For instance, avoid making negative comments about someone behind his back.

Consistent Routine

Routines can make life easier for everyone involved. Routines give structure to daily activities, which makes everything run more smoothly. A consistent routine also provides consistency for your teen. She knows exactly where she should be and what she should be doing at any given point during the day.

A regular schedule also allows you to plan ahead. That way, you won’t find yourself scrambling to figure things out last minute.

Set Boundaries

Boundary setting is essential for maintaining order within families. It ensures that no one gets hurt by stepping over invisible lines. Setting boundaries means saying clearly what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior. It may sound simple, but many people forget to do it.

When setting boundaries, keep in mind that teenagers have different levels of maturity than younger children. They tend to act impulsively and sometimes get angry when rules are broken. As long as you remain firm and fair, however, most teens respect your authority.

Teach Responsibility

Responsibility is an integral part of growing up. When kids become responsible, they gain confidence and begin to think logically. Responsible behaviors include following directions, being honest, keeping promises, obeying laws, and respecting other people.

If you expect your child to grow into adulthood responsibly, then he must understand that responsibility begins with him. He has to accept personal accountability for all decisions made

Discipline for Children

Disciplining your child isn’t easy. But if you want to raise a respectful person who respects others, discipline is necessary. Discipline teaches your child right from wrong and encourages good choices.

The best form of discipline involves consequences. Consequences help reinforce positive actions while discouraging bad ones. If you use rewards or punishments too often, though, your child might not see the difference between right and wrong.

Parenting Tips

Here are some tips on parenting teens:

Be patient. Don’t try to change your teen overnight. Instead, focus on small changes each week until your teen becomes comfortable enough to make bigger changes.

Don’t force your teen to eat healthy food. Let her decide whether she wants to eat healthfully or not.

Let go of control. Give your teen freedom to choose what she does and doesn’t like. For more tips on parenting watch this informative video.

Parenting Styles

There’s nothing worse than having a teenager who acts like a little kid. Kids this age don’t always know their own minds. They still believe whatever adults tell them. And because they lack self-confidence, they’ll follow anyone else around.

But there are ways to deal with these problems without resorting to punishment. Here are three effective strategies for dealing with rebellious teens:

Set Limits

Setting limits helps teach your teen about appropriate behavior. For example, say “no” firmly whenever your teen asks permission to do something inappropriate. This will show your teen that his requests aren’t welcome unless they meet certain criteria.

Be Consistent

Consistency builds trust. So let your teen know that you mean business by consistently enforcing your rules. Make sure that every rule is followed equally.

Use Rewards & Punishments

Rewards and punishments can be used effectively to encourage desirable behavior and discourage undesirable behavior. However, parents should avoid using either reward or punishment excessively. Otherwise, your teen won’t learn anything useful.

Instead, set clear guidelines for yourself so that you can apply rewards and punishments fairly. Then stick to those guidelines.